How often do you find yourself doing things to please others – your parents, family members, spouses, friends? Or because you think it’s what is expected of you? And how often do you feel deep inside that this is not what you really want, that it’s not truly you? In today’s connected world, it’s easy to get lost in the constant pressures of expectations, losing sight of who you are. But here is the truth: you don’t need anybody’s approval to live your life the way you want, and you should not care about the opinions of others, even if they come from those close to you.
Phrases like “you’re crazy,” “this will never work,” “you are getting yourself into trouble,” or “what would your mom think?” can sting. Let them think whatever they want: as long as you’re not breaking any laws and not hurting others, go ahead and do whatever you want. Live your life authentically and embrace your choices fully!
When you succeed, pat yourself on the shoulder and be proud. And if you mess up, well, there’s nobody to blame but yourself: pick up the pieces, learn from your mistakes, and start all over again. This journey is yours, and the only approval you need is your own.
Think of Julia Child, who didn’t learn to cook until she was nearly 40. Before that, she led an unremarkable life by most conventional standards. Many dismissed her dream of becoming a chef – especially as an American woman trying to break into the elite world of French cuisine. Julia didn’t seek anyone’s approval: she followed her passion, trained at Le Cordon Bleu, and ultimately revolutionized American cooking. Her legacy is a masterclass in owning your path, no matter how unconventional it might be.
Or take the example of Alex Honnold, one of the most acclaimed rock climbers of our time: when he announced to climb El Capitan – a 3,000-foot vertical rock face – alone and without any ropes, many called him reckless. Others flat-out begged him not to do it. But Honnold didn’t climb for applause: he prepared obsessively, trusted his instincts, and pursued a goal deeply meaningful to him. The result was one of the most daring athletic feats in history – and a reminder that greatness often requires tuning out the noise and trusting yourself completely.
In the end, seeking validation from others will only lead to a life unfulfilled, one that does not truly reflect who you are and what you want. Instead, listen to your inner voice and trust your instincts. Your happiness and fulfillment are worth more than anyone else’s opinion. So, the next time you find yourself doubting a decision because of what others might think, remember: the only approval you need is your own!
